judge

3 Quick Things To Do When A Judge Gives You Difficult Feedback

The day of a competition is filled it excitement, anticipation, and probably some stress too. But for many coaches, the stress doesn’t end at the award ceremony. Regardless of the outcome, many of us pour over the judges feedback sheets with…
score sheets

How to Discuss Competition Score Sheets

Your first competition of the season just ended, and you head over to the judges’ table to pick up a packet of your score sheets. Do you like to immediately read them? Do you collect them but then stuff them away in your bag for later? If…
positive reinforcement

The Special Power of Positive Reinforcement

Whenever I discuss the negative side to punishment, and why you should always avoid physical punishment I get questions about what to do instead. The focus is usually on the side of consequences. Coaches want to know, how do I get them to stop…

Tough Love: Why it's so hard to be hard on them but you need to do it

A few years ago, we were just days away from our tryouts, which includes tryouts for captains, and I was dreading it. Not because of the actual tryout process, but because I had one particular girl trying out for captain and I knew she needed…

4 Reasons Not To Punish With Pushups

Did you ever have to run laps when you were late to practice? For many of us, we grew up with coaches and dance directors who used physical punishment for bad behavior and mistakes. It’s relatively common to have a team do wall-sits when…
assistant coach

The Most Important Conversation You Need To Have With Your Assistant Coach

Are you lucky enough to have an assistant coach? Maybe you are an assistant coach who is eager to help the team.  Or maybe you’re like me, for a long time I was a head coach doing everything alone and wishing for some help!  I know…

Comparison is the Thief of Joy

President Theodore Roosevelt said it best: comparison is the thief of joy. What truly brings you JOY when you coach? Take a minute and think about that. For me, it's seeing the “lightbulb” moments in my dancers' faces. Like when…

The 1 Personality Trait You Have To Be Aware Of As A Successful Coach

On the outside, I am positive, happy, easy to get connect with, and friendly. None of that is fake. It’s all part of who I am. But what you don’t see on the outside is how self-conscious I am.  As part of my academic work, I…

7 Proven Steps to a Successful Goal Setting Meeting

I’m going to be blunt: The number 1 mistake coaches make with their early-season goal setting meeting, is to set those goals, and then forget it. They start out all excited, but there’s no real strategy behind it, so there is no positive…
Balance

The Shame of Failing at Work-Life​ Balance

Work-life balance is a myth. Yet there are so many podcasts and books out there about how to balance work and life so that you never feel overwhelmed or guilty. It’s impossible. But not because it’s impossible to balance, but…